After Sarah’s death, Abraham remarries and has many more children. For some, the loss of a spouse means an end to life, but for others, the loss of a spouse opens a door to a new life. I know widows and widowers who have far outlived their spouse and stayed single for twenty-plus years. They have learned to thrive as an individual and do not necessarily need another spouse. In other cases, a person finishes grieving and realizes he/she does not like to be alone. They want someone to share their hopes and dreams with and to walk with them through the good and difficult times. Is there a right answer? It honestly applies to each individual and does not mean a person is weak or devoid of love. As we live in community with others, we must leave all judgment with God and love those who choose to stay single or choose to remarry. Upon Abraham’s death, everything was given to his son, Isaac, the son of promise. Isaac and Rebekah thrived in their relationship though she struggled with barrenness. Eventually, God opened her womb and she had twins. They warred with each other in the womb, and she went to the Lord scared of what was happening. When she learned that the younger son would rule over the older, she was drawn to the second born who thrived in the tents cooking and helping his mother. Abraham was drawn to the older son because he loved to hunt and be outdoors. Unfortunately, their favoritism created a huge rift between the brothers. They clashed regularly with the younger son, Jacob, normally getting the advantage. Is that God’s plan for siblings? God gives us siblings to help us grow and mature and find our place in God’s kingdom. Sadly, today, it seems that many older siblings simply lead their younger siblings down the path to rebellion and disobedience.

Help me, Lord, to thrive in this life no matter what circumstances I face. Help me to love my children equally and to never play favorites with the goal of building a strong relationship between them.